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Wednesday, July 20, 2016

South African Husbands sleeping with domestic helpers!

By Zenoyise Madikwa |

Frustrated men help themselves! 

Cheating is common when opportunity knocks

HELPERS, bless them, cook, clean and wash for us. They know some of our deepest secrets, and even know what the hubby's boxers look like. Without them,
some families would be in chaos.
Nomvume Maphanga, a marriage counsellor, says domestic workers are becoming so 
powerful that many marriages and relationships are threatened.
She says cases of men sleeping with their helpers are on the rise, and one in five cases of 
infidelity she dealt with in the past year has involved a helper.
She says these women are often younger, stylish, enlightened, single and struggling with
 financial issues, and many of the men they sleep with are doing well financially. With
 money and power comes a sense of entitlement.
She adds that men like to use their masculinity to advance their power by picking on weaker 
people such as maids and young girls.
"These days the helpers - unlike the old mamas who used to do domestic work in berets, 
overalls and uniforms - are younger, wear stylish clothes, are sexier, more educated and
 because of their age they are very vulnerable and available to their male bosses," 
said Maphanga.
She says this is made worse by television and other media that sexualises women in 
subservient and submissive positions.
She said by nature power is attractive and maids are at risk because they may also be 
attracted to the allure of male power.
"The power dynamic works both ways because maids are also privy to the private lives 
of those who pay them. Maids get to see their secrets. So, in a way, the bosses are 
beholden to the maid. She has power over them."
Another thing that makes domestic workers attractive is that the excitement of the forbidden 
fruit can be erotic and edgy.
What is happening? Are our men threatened by empowered women?
Not at all, says Zuko Mathyila, a male activist based in Cape Town. Mathyila said the
 biggest reason men are playing hanky panky with the maid is emotional dissatisfaction.
He says studies by marriage counsellor Gary Neuman show that 48% of men rated
 emotional dissatisfaction as the primary reason they cheat. Read on...

Tuesday, May 17, 2016

It's The Biggest Blast Of Dopamine and Oxytocin You Can Get- Plus It's FREE

A recent Gallup Poll reported that half of Americans regularly take a vitamin or nutritional supplement. It appears that adults in the U.S are becoming steadily more health-conscious and taking steps to improve their own health.
There is one healthy activity, however, that is often considered a taboo topic in our culture and even a source of shame for many individuals. That activity is masturbation. Information provided by Planned Parenthood tells us that “Negative feelings about masturbation can threaten our health and well-being. Only you can decide what is healthy and right for you. But if you feel ashamed or guilty about masturbating, talking with a trusted friend, sexuality educator, counselor, and/or clergy member may help.”
The organization's website also lists the varied health benefits of masturbation, including: creating a sense of well-being; enhancing sex with partners both physically and emotionally; increasing the ability to have orgasms; improving relationship and sexual satisfaction; improving sleep; increasing self-esteem; improving body image; reducing stress; releasing sexual tension; relieving menstrual cramps; strengthening muscle tone in the pelvic and anal areas; and reducing women’s chances of involuntary urine leakage and uterine prolapse.Another recent study suggests that men could reduce their risk of developing prostate cancer through regular masturbation, and another notes that for women, masturbating can flush old bacteria from the cervix, decreasing the chances of developing a urinary tract infection.
Masturbation is also a cornerstone of modern sex therapy. Those who seek professional counseling for sexual difficulties, including inability to orgasm, are typically instructed to masturbate to learn about their bodies and then encouraged to communicate what they discover to their partners. Many outstanding self-help books, such as Becoming Orgasmic and The Elusive Orgasm, suggest masturbation as a core strategy, and sex educators including Betty Dodson and Corey Silverberg, tout the benefits of the practice and provide how-to guides.
There is a biochemical basis for the positive effects of masturbation. It "releases feel-good neurochemicals like dopamine and oxytocin that lift your spirits, boost your satisfaction, and activate the reward circuits in your brain," reports Gloria Brame, Ph.D. "An orgasm is the biggest non-drug blast of dopamine available.” In short, a masturbation-induced orgasm creates feelings of euphoria; it’s a safe, free, and natural high.
When you consider all the benefits, it is surprising that there aren’t more people—especially women—masturbating regularly? the taboos and the resultant shame they cause are are seriously  to blame. Apart from this, women, may also have another reason: Simply stated, female masturbation presents more of a logistical challenge than their male masturbating opposites, and reaching arousal takes a lot longer for women than for men. Finding sufficient private time to reach arousal or orgasm may be difficult for women who share a bed with a partner or who have children.
Masturbation certainly requires more time and effort than taking a vitamin capsule. Yet the research on supplement benefits is riddled with conflicting results, whereas the findings on masturbation are unequivocal. What Woody Allen called "sex with someone you love" and what Betty Dodson called "selfloving" is beneficial for one’s physical, emotional, and relational health.

Friday, April 22, 2016

7 foods that BOOST your sagging testosterone levels (helping you restore energy, muscle, strength, and sex drive) 

High levels of testosterone are, quite literally, what make you a man and keep you healthy and vital throughout your entire life.  The loss of youthful levels of testosterone can greatly diminish your energy, strength, mental, emotional, and sexual function and contribute to fatigue, premature aging, and disease. 

Luckily, your testosterone level—and overall state of well-being—are within your control if you do some of the right things.
Do you remember having an almost endless supply of energy? What ever happened to those days anyway? More than likely, the testosterone that was once responsible for making you feel alive and full of energy isn’t quite what it used to be.

The typical American male will lose testosterone at an alarming rate of one to two percent each year beginning at age thirty. So a 55-year-old man could quite literally be half the man he was at age 30!

Very recent studies indicate that the testosterone level of the average male today is 25% less than it was in 1992. The average male estrogen level has increased an alarming 40% during the same time period. See why...

Friday, April 8, 2016

Sunday, March 13, 2016


Exercise and the correct diet can change you life dramatically!


Naturally fatty fish like salmon, mackerel, herring, lake trout, sardines, and albacore tuna are good sources of omega-3 fatty acids. These are "good" fats that help keep your heart healthy. They may also help keep your brain sharp, especially as you get older. The American Heart Association suggests eating two servings of fatty fish a week. A serving is 3 ounces -- about the size of a deck of cards. Try it baked, grilled, or poached.


Eat it on your sandwich, or serve it up in guacamole. Tasty avocado is good for your heart and may help with libido, thanks to healthy fats.
An extra benefit? When you eat avocado with other foods, it helps your body better absorb their nutrients. Half a medium avocado is one serving and about 115-160 calories.


Little pumpkin seeds, sunflower seeds, and sesame seeds pack a big punch. They have "good" fats that can lower cholesterol and boost your sex drive. In general, fats that come from plants are healthier than those from animal products. "Bad" fats are in foods like fatty cuts of meat, full-fat dairy products, and some packaged foods. Check food labels to see how much fat, and what type, you're getting. Limit saturated fats and avoid trans fats.


From hazelnuts to pecans, all nuts are good for your heart. Walnuts, especially, deliver an electrified sexual boost heart-healthy fats. But don't overdo it. Just because the fats are healthy doesn't mean you can eat as much as you want. A serving is 1 ounce. That's about 14 walnut halves, 24 almonds, 35 peanuts, 18 cashews, or 15 pecan halves.

Olive Oil

Whether you're cooking or dressing your salad, try olive oil. It's high in good fat. Remember, though: It's always smart to watch how much fat -- even good fat -- you eat. So cook with less oil than a recipe calls for. Or use an olive oil spray. In baking, you can use applesauce for half the oil to cut back on some fat and shave calories.